Only by being really difficult
can the child discover whether the parents are resilient and robust – worth having.
If the child, or even adult, is never really difficult
he will never find out what the world and he himself are really like.
Psychotherapist Oona Metz described, in a recent blog post, her reactions to her adolescent daughter’s rapid development. How tightly should she hold on? How much should she let go? Hope mixed with fear at every step.